Today Dear Abby had some advice about charm. She said:
My mother used to say there are two kinds of people in this world: those who walk into a room and their attitude says, “Here I am!” And those who walk into a room and their attitude says, “There you are!” The there-you-are type is always the most popular.
Could we take out the word ‘room’ and replace it with ‘scene’?
If we do, it starts to sound a little like endowment to me.
She goes on to suggest:
If you walk into a room and don’t know anyone, don’t wait for someone to approach you. Select someone who looks lost, approach him – or her- and say, “Hi, my name is ‘Emma’.
And how does translate when run through the improv filter?
To me it suggest that if you feel lost in a scene, instead of endowing others, define yourself.
Okay…maybe I’ve been spending way to much time with my mind in an improv-state…but here is more that she has to say…which seems to talk directly to our fundamental belief that you’re on the right track if people enjoy playing with you (Are you fun to play with? Only those you play with can answer.).
Charm..is putting the other person at ease and making her (or him) feel comfortable and important. The charming person makes the effort to make others feel good about themselves. Forming the habit of making others feel good will make YOU popular to be around.
What do you think? Is it improv or do we just see improv everywhere?